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Confidence! Dressing well and grooming is the first and most obvious point that comes to mind. When you are looking nice, you feel good and feel you can take on the world.

But not so for all...in a group, you do see people looking nice but very uncomfortable nonetheless. They are withdrawn and happier when people don't address them. I knew someone who was a pro at confidence, thanks to a book by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends and Influence People". He was popular and could charm a bird off a tree.

Having said that, is being able to influence people everything?

On the flip side, there are people who read "what do you say after Hello", too......

Confidence at a deeper level is the result of a deep spiritual bent of mind, pure thought and unconditional love. When you don't recognize "loss" at all. Everything is a bonus.

When you reach this state of being, your confidence is complete and your core strengthened by the day.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

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Emotional aberrations

 “I can't see" or " I can't breathe" said often are not to be taken lightly. There are those who actually cannot breathe in life and are steeped in depression and have many energy blocks.

Similarly, those who complain of not being able to see are like those who are drowning in the sea of life. Critical conditions may be close.

The stereotypes must be attended to. There can also be a lack of self love here leading to various mental and emotional aberrations. And not everyone has the awareness or the wisdom to know they should seek help. Their families sometimes have even less awareness and, in ignorance, do generate more harm.

So, when you see these tendencies in people around you, please get wise and seek help for them.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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Courage

When someone tells you that you don't have courage or lack in it, please sit down and introspect very seriously. Because what you may well be doing is compromising, letting others dominate, not allowing yourself to move forward in life due to a spate of sacrifices that no one ultimately remembered...and all this depriving you of the courage you need to strike out to love yourself, develop your personality, learn to say "no" to those you have spoilt with too much attention and be your own person.

So, maybe, you HAD the courage all along but never prioritized on yourself and therefore, subjugated it deliberately in favor of appeasing those around you and making them comfortable.

When you have a balance, it is when everyone realizes their limits and stops trying to extract more from people than they SHOULD be giving. There is a tipping point when caring becomes sacrifice and once too often at that. Of course, unless there is a very definite reason NOT TO, each person must show courage to focus on their own goals also, never mind if it does not suit everyone around or causes some amount of discomfort owing to unwanted changes...

So, please KNOW why you are discarding courage and what the trade offs are for you. If the trade off amounts to your suppression, no one has the right to do this and you may assert yourself for sure? Analyzing the underlying reasons is most important in retaining or discarding the courageous aspect of your personality.

Surekha Kothari

www.BodyMindSoulCentre.com

surekhakothari.wordpress.com

SpeakingtreeBlog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari

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