Perspective

 You never walk alone. This feeling of being alone or of loneliness is just a huge lack of awareness. An illusion out of ignorance.

The truth is, I walk with my spirit. I am my own friend, my own genie who walks within me. And that wholesomeness never gives me a lack of anything.

Have you ever tried to work with this perspective? Love yourself first. That fountain is enough for everyone.

The sun gives light to all. It does not diminish if a cloud covers it temporarily. You know it is there.

Similarly, my soul is THERE, in the journey. Like the sun. And like me, all of us are whole and complete. We have to realize the presence of our soul in everything we do.

Soul realization is a shining reality. Filled with joy!

Surekha Kothari

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Truth

There are wheels within wheels everywhere. If you try to look for the starting point of anything today, you are likely to lose your mind! You can never reach the root.

Journalists are busy trying to unravel the truth about the webs of lies around political scenarios, the Bollywood gossips and sensationalizing the private lives of well-known people!

Every day, there are new stories about people, almost as if there are multiple people residing within one person.

How boring and humdrum our own lives must be, to even think of indulging in such discussions!

Although, some of the journalists -turned podcasters do open our eyes to some authentic news, at least on the surface if not in-depth.

Of course, the more people who know you, the more trouble there is for you! Fact!

Yet, the publicity machinery is more active today than ever! Fake / exaggerated / misinterpreted “news” have become common place. The more “infamous”, the more talked about. Others may well be relegated to being “squares”.

What a world!

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Vibration Energy

Recently, I was amused by a definition of “masks”. It said, sometimes, people smile at you with their eyes behind their backs! A creative way of defining duplicity.

If we are not vigilant, the smile can mislead us big time.

I don’t know why it is so necessary to wear a mask in the first place. Why is there so much to hide? Would it not be better to be more simple and forthright? Evidently not!

I was good enough at math to know 2 and 2 makes four. Today, it may add up to an irrational number!

Today, simple math does not work. There are complicated calculations at work and the brain is overloaded, not to mention the heart and other affected chakras.

All these videos that tell you things under “wisdom” only teach you to fear people and isolate yourselves. If you are constantly being suspicious of who means what, and who is out to “get” you, how do you live a productive life?

If we notice, all of us have a lonely space within us already. And we are complicating our lives by desperately seeking crutches to fill that space. It is of no use! Crutches are, at best, a short term illusion.

The only thing that works is your vibrations with the universal energy. It is protective. It is light to dispel all darkness.

Apart from our karmic pain, we have the pain of integrating our shadow side with our light side.

People who embark on this journey face several challenges, those of the death of the old and beginning of the new. AND isolation! Because people still have the image of the old “you” in their minds to judge and criticize. You can’t win. There is a huge price to pay here so, many just live on the way they know how, as comfortably as possible.

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Frustration

By and large, we humans judge more than love. I guess we are so needy that we want to be around those who give, who anticipate our needs and dedicate their lives to each other. Something most naturally expected from certain close relationships more than others. But what is forgotten is that whatever roles we are given to play inevitably come with challenges, sometimes ones that can take all our strength to endure.

As we are coping with our own grief, disappointments, and frustrations on one side, no one is really concerned but ourselves. And if we let that mask we wear in public, slip, we are in trouble! All kinds of speculation and judgement is thrown at us.

This is the human being of today, that is building artificial intelligence today, to emphasize the need for something external to come through as an aid for us. Who have moved away from everything natural, especially our divine collective consciousness that holds complete knowledge.

The vastness of the soul is only being researched by science now, whereas India knew it eons ago.

Read about Indian, even Egyptian civilizations and we see evidence of the spirituality of humans, the knowledge they possessed and the relationship to righteous living as the hallmark of divine connection. Are we on the wrong path then, or are we on the inevitable path of evolution? Wherever it takes us and to whatever consequences we face in the bargain.

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Counselling

 

Compassion and Kindness

Sure, go out and help people. That’s what life teaches due to mutual connectivity. But don’t deplete your own energy while doing so. Your energy is meant for your journey. And you require it regularly.

This is what empaths do. Help and move back. Someone who feels the pain of others but does not internalize it. Instead, helps in every which way to alleviate suffering.

Compassion and kindness are off shoots of empathy. Most important is balance though. Remember the principle of always wearing your own oxygen mask first. Keep enough oxygen for yourself.

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Isolation

 That feeling of isolation when you realize no one is really understanding you and your explanations, however genuine, are falling on deaf ears! That you may well be on a different planet speaking in an alien language.

But, please don’t take it as an offence or a slur on you. It is really not. For the most part, today, people’s minds are buzzing so much with their own issues which they are trying hard to conceal or deny, that genuine communication or empathy for that matter, eludes them.

They are thinking west when you are talking east. It would be funny if it were not sad!

It has become the norm to excel in small talk “feel good” talk, as if the sugary words stem straight from a glass of alcohol.

Sometimes, it is better not to have too much awareness or understand too much! It kind of spoils you for superficial fun. Nonsensical interaction which is not designed to make “sense” in any remote way!

Our energies are spent more in beating about the bush than take a straight path.

But, when it concerns a large number of people, I guess, salutary changes in the minority may not be visible unless many begin to adapt.

So here we are, each one of us believing that we are on the right track but the tracks run parallel and so does communication become a casualty because there is no meeting point.

Communicate with yourself instead. Smile at these instances of being a chalk against cheese or cheese against a chalk! It’s all the same ultimately. And anyway, the focus was always YOU.

So, you can find yourself, your reality, your peace within, and stop wondering about anything else.

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Stimulation

As we advance in age, you know what becomes a moot question? That how many years have we tried to come up to other people’s expectations, to get that much craved for pat on the back to feel good and feel a sense of comfortable self-esteem?

And what does it take to come into our own as yet undiscovered space which belongs only to us? Rejected by none other than ourselves in exchange for temporary happiness handed out by others. The crumbs of happiness that actually had such a short life and yet, we never quite understood this and kept craving for many such short lives.

But the day we realize the happiness on reaching and discovering our own space, it appears as the most beautiful garden, the most complete and the most joyful! Coming into our own! Feeling so wholesome that there is no need for any external validation or stimulation to fill any empty spaces within. Because, you see, there ARE none!

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Instability of Behavior

Public behavior has certain norms for a civilized society. Instability of behavior, being civil when you are calm and venting when you are in a bad mood… a lot of this seems to be tolerated today.

Obviously, this demonstrates some emotional confusion, lack of control over your mind and finally, even less on your speech.

So, one day you smile and the next, you are flaying the same person with unkind words! The consequence is a lot of back chat about that person.

I don’t think we even care about how superficial we are and how we don’t think twice before mowing people down with our unsavory language and generally bad behavior.

I guess the current societies encourage such irresponsible behavior inadvertently by not censuring it and not focusing on its desirability vis a vis non desirability. And so it carries on with some.

But for how long? Because at the end of the day, people are intelligent enough to understand the reasons even though they will not admit them openly.

Its pathetic in a way that you can feel good after disrespecting people in public. But the good news is, its solely the problem of that one person.

Like Buddha said, just return to people their own negativity. There is no need to accept it.

If only we studied his teachings!

We are generally showing a downward trend in values. And because we are too morally weak to rise, we pull others down to where we are.

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Courage

One important dimension of courage! Become unpopular but do the right thing. You may not get brownie points from those around you but you WILL, from places that matter.

And the fear of alienation here keeps us away from connecting frequencies with the universe.

Loss therefore, can be described in two ways: one being misled while we are on the physical plane and the other, long term loss from giving in to illusions and failing to connect with what is real.

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Meditation

We look for something all the time … searching all our lives for that one thing that may end all our troubles and make us peaceful.

But that’s not how it works. There are plenty of cobwebs to clear.

Besides, have we perhaps tried to look for what is actually looking for US? The so far unseen and unfelt vibrations that follow us to improve our thinking, our actions, give us clarity, are the casualty of our lack of awareness and focus on the wrong things.

The pity is, our energies are too dense to feel subtleties! Our tendency is more external oriented and so, very difficult to tune into subtle frequencies.

Some of us would have felt a tiny tremor within us sometime, only to have discarded it on the spot without understanding what it was trying to tell us.

To the meditators, these vibrations might touch sooner than later. New stimulation, new thoughts, new focus can happen with meditation. It changes lives.

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Realization

 At some point, after a lot of struggles and tears, we must reach a point where the universe becomes our mentor. We have been living within lower vibrations, attempting to experiment with different outcomes. But the foundation itself has been questionable.

Some humans on a quest for higher dimensions appear like aliens and find few like them in their journey.

But carry on they must, despite the risk of being misunderstood or isolated. Sometimes, there are no meeting points in minds and so, no satisfactory communication may be possible.

Maybe, the death of the old and the beginning of the new is the way out . Funny how strange the same old world starts looking and how puzzling to have spent so much time and emotions where now, there is a remoteness of watching the same things as mere observers.

The ultimate realization that we do have to leave this world at some point makes everything meaningless except what my soul carries out of this world: the memories, the healing and the joy or just restlessness and a lot of unfinished business as arrears for other lives.

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Achievement

The capacity of people to shoot down a rising star is famous in its often vicious tactics.

A pathetic aspect of human nature? I am afraid I have to agree, out of years of observation AND experience.

When you look at the brave jawans or freedom fighters, eminent spiritual gurus (the saints that walked this earth), you realize how insignificant each human is in this vast universe. But the human ego is indomitable!

The ego encourages wrongful actions in the scramble to claw our way to supremacy. Except that this is, at best, an illusory situation.  This realisation is the beginning of a spiritual awareness inspiring humility.

To “perceive” such an illusion is a short term feeling of achievement. It is frequently seen that people who do their work quietly, sincerely and efficiently and who are not interested in the limelight are the ones most contented and happy. Peaceful! They only compete with themselves each day to aspire towards achieving greater heights.

It is great to have ambition, goals and a plan of action to reach the goals, but planning the downfall of someone climbing side by side with you or overtaking you is anti-dharma, anti-ethics, anti-spiritual, in fact, anti-everything human even.

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Personality

A lot of things we do go against us but it has become such a norm in society today that hardly anyone thinks twice before doing them.

There are small and not so small lies, for one. The small ones CAN be avoided by saying it as it is. Without any harm coming to either side. Like, giving excuses unnecessarily.

Then there are the bigger lies which CAN be harmful in different ways. Once truth is out, there will definitely be an outcome which may not be a palatable one.

So many relationships hang by a slender thread of trust. Lies can kill them. If you claim to love, it is not valid without trust. And the basis of trust is respect.

If you can lie to someone, you evidently lack respect for that person. Whatever the reason be, it speaks only of your internal shadow personality.

It is therefore, very important to look within first. There are many cobwebs which manifest as untruths and need cleaning.

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Acceptability

 Every day you experience something and if you have an analytical bent of mind, you start to draw parallels!

I was recommending a few Pakistani dramas to some friends, when one of them suddenly said “you should not be supporting Pakistani dramas”. Now, I knew it was coming from a good place but I begged to differ. I said this had nothing to do with politics and though I loved my country, I thought that opinions like this, to me, were negative patriotism. Very sportingly, my friend agreed that entertainment was actually neutral territory.

This had me extrapolating in my mind! This happens big time in the society also. Someone maligns someone and friends who flock together decide to ostracize the maligned person who may have been just a victim of someone’s envy. And this is NOT gender specific.

People are so myopic and cliquish that if you are not willing to copy these attitudes, you can end up walking alone.

Acceptability and generosity are two virtues which are very rare among human beings. They prioritize on power and controls to feel good about themselves. We are seeing this unfolding right at the top , with  ego power play between countries.

The micro is reflected in the macro and this is the reality today. Sometimes, I think there is a subtle shift happening towards the transparent and recognition of merit and goodness. But we still have to wait for the manifestation of the shift. We still do not accept each other and are in constant conflict with each other.

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Humiliation

What is our biggest and the most regrettable loss? Have we thought about it? Or are we moving through life mechanically?

Our biggest loss is losing OURSELVES… losing our intrinsic spiritual nature, losing our faith in that we are divine creatures, losing pure minds over frivolous and harmful activities and creating negative karma by the minute.

Really??? Is that how we want to be described or seen by the world? And more important, is this how we actually want to live the life gifted to us?

And all this wastage of our precious lives just to accommodate others and run the race of popularity when our reality is “from dust unto dust”?

Each time we indulge in a negative act, we are sinking deeper and deeper into our pool of darkness. We just don’t see it because we are not aware or conscious that it is a natural outcome which we, at some point, will just HAVE to pay for.

The irony of the human is that what you don’t see, you don’t realize the impact of. How strange that instead of bringing the sub conscious into the conscious and clearing it up, we choose to increase our dark spaces. By continuing our negative patterns of thought, word and deed. These keep manifesting and we keep increasing the darkness within us. Especially when we derive vicarious pleasure from observing the downfall or humiliation of others. It is actually OUR downward journey.

The ego IS our identity but must be counteracted by the attitude of humility, grace and goodness.

With Bharat moving ahead with such speed, can we afford to be sluggish in our individual “vikaas”, that is, upliftment?

Think seriously! Life is given for reflection and transformation.

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