Friday, 7 March 2025
Tuesday, 4 March 2025
Destination
Sometimes I wonder! At the end of the day, what do I want from anyone? What do I want that I don’t already have? I can take lots from others if they are in the mood to give. But then? It is a one sided energy exchange, Isn’t it?
So, then I need to return that
energy. And I have no clue how clean and pure intentioned energy it was that I internalized
due my desires. It has taken me a while to understand this concept no his truth!
Now I see clearly why saints
always gave of themselves. Their energies are so pure that humans can only
benefit from them.
In Bhagvad Gita, the concept of
surrender is the automatic merging with that pure energy which starts to drive
your life when you withdraw from that ego state that wrongly thinks that YOU
are doing whatever is happening in your life.
You know, aircrafts that are
aided by the direction of the winds reach their destination faster. Similarly,
when the Lord becomes our charioteer like HE was Arjun’s, Arjun never returned
to his earlier state of confusion. His dharma was the aircraft aided by the
grace of the Almighty.
When you start to see this,
everything becomes the will of God. HE guides you through the storms, protects
you from adverse experiences and helps you across from this end to that end …
smooth passage for our soul!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Monday, 3 March 2025
Sympathize
If we recorded our daily output of words and played them back to ourselves, how many words would be those of criticism and gossip of others?
The state of our minds can be
really understood by this exercise.
I am sure most of us realize what
we are saying and the intention behind what we are saying. It is just the
compulsion to say it that is often suspect, even disturbing.
Speech is a gift we need to use
very carefully. Even when we sympathize with people without this gift, we don’t
mend our ways.
If we cannot say a good word, it
is better not to say anything. For the sake our own minds which will get
polluted and we then have the extra work to clean them up.
Why not then just be quiet and
peaceful and watch the world go by? Instead of taking on unnecessary piles of
rubbish that was never yours to carry in the first place.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Sunday, 23 February 2025
Environment
What can be more healing than nature? This is why all the hill stations are visited regularly. There is something about concrete jungles that disturbs the peace. Also, because we ourselves probably cannot handle the stress of city life. We are as concretized within our desires and therefore fail to give ourselves a spiritual perspective of the temporary nature of everything around us. Space gives us a sense of the infinite. Cities generally do not. We must find our own environment, within and without, to become peaceful.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Friday, 21 February 2025
Nature
What can be more healing than
nature? This is why all the hill stations are visited regularly. There is
something about concrete jungles that disturbs the peace. Also, because we ourselves
probably cannot handle the stress of city life. We are as concretized within
our desires and therefore fail to give ourselves a spiritual perspective of the
temporary nature of everything around us. Space gives us a sense of the
infinite. Cities generally do not. We
must find our own environment, within and without, to become peaceful.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 20 February 2025
Wednesday, 19 February 2025
Circumstances
I learnt a long time ago that if you point one finger outwards, three will point back at you. Ever since then, if I see undesirable behavior of someone towards me, I go inwards to see what it is about me that inspired that behavior.
This exercise has helped me
tremendously. To understand whether there is something in me that attracted it,
and that I should clean up within me or, the issue is within those who mete out
such behavior to feel good about themselves or they are just not strong enough
to face their issues or circumstances.
In either case, it becomes a win-
win situation for me. Either I clean up or I let go of what is not my concern. It
is truly a moment of freedom. It simplifies my life.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 17 February 2025
Sunday, 16 February 2025
Sincere
Every attempt to sincerely cleanse yourself is painful, like pulling your teeth. The mind just does not want to go there and look into any flaws whereas, that is a priority.
It is so much easier to discuss
the flaws of others because they are in front of you. You cannot be in front of
yourself, can you? Yes! You can, but you won’t! Because it is darned painful!
After all, you are battling with your ego which cannot stand being exposed.
So how will you deal with this ?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 11 February 2025
Realization
There has been an intense realization that when inner positivity begins to blossom, you begin to get external manifestations of positivity too, as if they are just happening. There seems to be no overt attempt.
The only rational thought can be,
if your inner vessel is clean, whatever comes out of it is clean. So simple!
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Monday, 10 February 2025
Friday, 7 February 2025
Wednesday, 5 February 2025
Monday, 3 February 2025
Desire
Isn’t it ironical how changes creep up on us? There was a time we thought living in the heart was akin to godliness because love resided there. Today, mostly the intellect is used to keep relationships going. I wonder if, due to our self-seeking desires, we have now started succumbing to personal fears than using love!
Why fear? Because we depend on
the good will of others to fulfil our needs, I guess. So, we cannot let the
relationship go wrong. Which means, we need to use our intelligence to maintain
it. The heart is vulnerable.
How archaic the old thought
processes seem today! And those who still work from their hearts often find themselves
confused and often in deep waters.
Love is relegated to the realm of
God, as if to say, love is for God , not humans. Because humans fall short each
time.
I wonder if this is generally
true today.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Connectivity
Life has serious aspects to it. To have a good time 24*7 may sound like a plan but is it that simple?
We have challenges all through
life which of course, we might deny or try to overlook in different ways. But
they don’t go away.
The whole problem with this world
of humans is varying strengths of character and the ways of survival adopted.
Of course, some sink into undesirable ways. Some might harm others to survive.
Some may not survive at all. But some also live in contentment. They are doing
something right.
But, in all these options, we
never think of the one that CAN save us from disaster.
That wonderful truth can make our
personal journey and connectivity with everything in the universe magical.
As someone said, human salvation
lies in discovering the absolute truth. But in how many lifetimes is anyone’s
guess.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 31 January 2025
Vibration
When truth itself becomes a multi headed hydra, it has little chance of surviving or winning. There was a time when people used to say “truth shall prevail”. Even today, it is said that truth will come out one day, that a covering of lies cannot hide it. Today, you can twist the truth even if people have personally witnessed a lie. We only believe what suits us to believe these days.
But I wonder why truth ultimately
(if it does) emerges when it emerges and not when it was required to present
itself. When there was a dire need to show itself. When you are aware of
energies, truth being one, it is all a game of subtle vibrations. Just like the
sun emerging only when the clouds disperse.
That’s why less and less people
are now inclined to share their thought energy, their stories because they will
be stripped of their truthful element , twisted and made a mockery of. We don’t
have the energy of courage to speak the truth out aloud. With conviction and
fearlessly.
Therefore, we have a convenient
umbrella of diplomacy under which we push in all our pretentiousness. The
umbrella probably hides us also, after the so called “diplomacy” has been
delivered with success, leaving that person a little emptier than before.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Tuesday, 28 January 2025
Monday, 27 January 2025
Memories
All these years, having been in
denial and argued and vented, finally, truth has dawned! Everything happens for
a reason. Everything was meant to be. We thought we were taking the decisions
but, was it so? Really? Were our reactions valid then?
Actually, what is meant to stay,
stays. And what is meant to get over, just gets over. WE reach a saturation
point in a lot of the cases. And in some, the choice is not ours.
And yet, all our lives, we fight
and stress, and refuse to let go to move forward. We forget that karma is at
work constantly. Our debts call out. Also our credits are interspersed with
those debts we must pay. When we experience the joy of good karma, we forget
easily. What remains and sustains is the unpleasant memories.
As the wise have wisely said, cut
thoughts. Cut memories. They are the source of all the attachment and egos at
play in our lives. And when there are no thoughts, it is automatic surrender to
a higher power. This is the ultimate in our journey, isn’t it?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Friday, 24 January 2025
Tolerance
One thing is for sure! Our agonizing over relationships only defines our own need. Know that story about the monk who was meditating on a boat on the river in the dark and kept getting disturbed by the collision with another boat? He burst out in anger at the person in the other boat, only to find that the boat was empty and was colliding against his boat due to the winds.
In life, we do this all the time.
We find situations intolerable and vent our anger! So too, in relationships. If
we can think of all relationships as that empty boat, we will cease to be
needy. With an attitude that if there IS a person in that boat, smile! And if it
is an empty boat also, smile! Nothing can stick to you if you don’t let it.
Observing the fleeting nature of
things is a great lesson.
Sometimes, a “best” friend can
part with you for years on account of a small misunderstanding. And sometimes,
someone recent in your life can give you the support and caring you would never
have imagined.
Sometimes, you expect more from
those you love and that can really mess you up if that love is not reciprocated
in equal measure. It was probably the equation that was to set in but not
acceptable to us.
The long and short of this is simply to cultivate happiness from within, not giving much thought to what was, what could have been, why it is not the way it should have been etc. Save yourself the agony. It is completely self-created and harms no one but you.
Hard lessons and often taught by
people closest to you.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Thursday, 23 January 2025
Wednesday, 22 January 2025
Monday, 20 January 2025
Sunday, 19 January 2025
Self-Improvement
The journey of self-improvement is arduous and fraught with trial after trial! To take every day, smiling through it all and letting go each minute of what you do not really find palatable and finally, sleeping well at night because you not only deflected the negative energy that came your way but did not respond, thereby nullifying it almost instantly. This I guess, is the starting point to evolving to a higher purpose through the higher self we possess but fail to access due to the reactionary mode we live in.
HOW can you NOT let your expectations
get the better of you? HOW can you observe and accept whatever is happening?
Because nothing really happens to US. We choose to think it is. In short, how
do you NOT let it stick to you EVEN IF it was meant for you? These are
questions which have suggestions / seeds of knowledge within them.
Buddha remained calm and unfazed
when a man came up and started continuously abusing him verbally. His disciples
were angry on his behalf and asked Buddha why he didn’t say something. Buddha
said, the man was giving him a gift but he did not accept it. So, this way, the
gift went back to him.
Can we start doing this? Buddha
was an ordinary human being before he became “The enlightened one”. So why
can’t all of us too? There is only one
condition: that we work towards it.
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Speakingtree Blog: www.speakingtree.in/public/surekhakothari
Wednesday, 15 January 2025
Thursday, 9 January 2025
Judgement
Human beings struggle with their deep insecurities and a lot of fear. On this base, they create need based relationships which they give titles to, like “friendship”. There is seldom any trust and faith. There is more judgement on how we can put our best foot forward to retain this quality of bonhomie. And fear that one wrong word or action can remove you from the relationship. If we cannot find comfort in an association, will it last? Perhaps only if we agree to keep paying a price with our own self. And that becomes painful after a point.
I think there is loneliness in
groups today because we cannot be our authentic selves and pretense and
compromise become very exhausting. So exhausting that sometimes, we ourselves want
to distance ourselves from joining group activity. The same goes for one to one
relationships. Nothing can endure without faith and trust. Can it? Can we re-establish
our base then, to faith and trust?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Wednesday, 8 January 2025
Tuesday, 7 January 2025
Transformation
Transformation is always from within. It is a change which comes to stay. Cannot be external or faked. Also, it comes after a lot of churning within. With a realization that something NEEDS to be changed, that it is not quite right, even makes you uncomfortable.
We have a built in meter within
us which tells us. But we may not either realize this or want to listen to it.
When we are not ready and have to go
Through some more churning.
Isn’t it strange then that we
have everything with us, but we take so much time to actually turn to the right
side of the coin?
Surekha Kothari
surekhakothari.wordpress.com
Thursday, 2 January 2025
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